Sight Unseen

There’s a little side of Eli that not many get to see.

He’s usually so hyper, so wild.

He’s a typical brother – arguing over toys, getting angry over things that should be irrelevant.

But sometimes, behind closed doors, this glimmer of an amazing child shines through.

The boys returned a couple of duplicate Christmas gifts this weekend and got to pick out a couple of new things.  They each picked out a new Bakugan but they were both different.  We opened them in the car and headed to the next store.

Keegan was tired.  Keegan was sensitive.  Keegan went into an uncontrollable tantrum when he decided that Eli’s Bakugan was “cooler” than his.  Suddenly life wasn’t fair.  We just needed to return his Bakugan and get him a cooler one.  Because we don’t roll like that, he was stuck with the choice he made.

During the car ride home, Keegan continued to whine, cry, fuss, etc.

Eli offered to let Keegan hold his Bakugan.  Keegan just became more upset.

Eli offered to let Keegan have his Bakugan for the rest of the day.  Keegan kind of perked up.

Eli spent some time talking about how very cool Keegan’s Bakugan was and how Keegan picked the best Bakugan ever.

Keegan started to get upset again.

In the end, Eli offered to give Keegan his Bakugan for good.  He gave a tiny little guilt trip by saying, with a sigh, just how much he would miss his Bakugan.  But, he told Keegan he was willing to do that if it would make him happy.

Perhaps it was the fact that Keegan was crying loudly in a small space and Eli couldn’t get away from it.

Or, it was the fact that Eli just plain and simple hates to see his brother that upset.

Either way, he stepped up and did a very amazing, big brother thing.

We stepped in as mommies and offered another suggestion that ended up making both of them happy – let’s put ALL of the Bakugan in a toy box and call them ALL OURS.  Each Bakugan now belongs to both boys.  And, amazingly, they both bought it!

The remainder of the trip home my honey and I sat in the front of the car beaming with pride.  But we both looked at each other at about the same time and realized that no one really gets to see this side of him.

When people are around he’s content to let Keegan cry.  When he’s with other kids his age he shows off by picking on Keegan.  But this is who he really is.  This is the little boy that we know and love.  I hope that someday others will see it too.


About Brotherly Love

I am a mom, partner, teacher and a lover of life. I have two fabulous boys who define my life as I know it. One of my children has been diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder, Asperger's and anxiety disorder. I blog as much about him as I do about my life and the lives of my immediate family.
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6 Responses to Sight Unseen

  1. Mrs.Mayhem says:

    It sounds like Eli is an amazing little boy, with a kindness streak a mile wide. When I see my kids being nice to each other, it just melts my heart. You must be so proud of Eli!

  2. Jaimee says:

    So sweet! I know what you mean about those moments of seeing your amazing child shine through!

  3. Elastamom says:

    That is the sweetest story I’ve heard in a while. Love it.

  4. Debbi Henry says:

    What a sweet, sweet, boy he is!

  5. akbutler says:

    awesome! you both must have been very proud of him. Love seeing that empathy come through with brothers.

  6. Kate says:

    The moments of giving, true giving. Oh, they melt me. Lovely.

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