“Mommy, can we talk about Kindergarten?”
These words finally came out of the mouth of my little man.
We’ve suspected since the spark ignited that many of the behaviors we were seeing were because of anxiety.
Eli’s fabulous teacher has been doing her job and trying to prepare him for the changes ahead.
She’s reminded him that he will be going to a new school for Kindergarten.
She’s reminded him that none of his current friends are going onto his new school – they have their own schools to go to.
She’s reminded him that Kindergarten is different from preschool in so many good ways – he will get to learn all new things!
What she (all of us really) neglected to do was teach my brilliant 5 year old the concept of time. In his little world this is all happening tomorrow….
She also neglected to inform his little mind how to wrap itself around all of these changes. I mean really, if it were only that simple!
So Friday afternoon my little anxious child asked me if we could talk about Kindergarten. I
screamed from the rooftops said yes! It was my opening to finally help him get through some of the craziness that has been going on. Or so I thought…..
What will I learn in Kindergarten?
You’ll learn to spell more words, to read. You’ll get to do the math that you love doing so much.
Who will be my new best friend? Jack can’t come to my new school…
There will be so many new friends! And Jack can still be your best friend – we’ll still have lots of playdates with him!
But I won’t know any of the new kids…
You didn’t know any of the kids when you started preschool. Miss Maryann had to tell you their names. Kindergarten will be just like that.
But I want Keegan to go to my new school too….
Remember when you started preschool you were the only one there? Keegan couldn’t go yet. Kindergarten will be the same way – Keegan just can’t go yet.
What will my new room look like?
????? (There is construction on all of the buildings so the entire structure of the building is changing. I have no answer for this question.)
Who will my new teacher be?
????? (The district is changing to full day Kindergarten and they are hiring new teachers. We won’t find out who is teacher is until the fall. I have no answer for this question.)
After the second question that he stumped me with he stopped asking. I tried to keep the inquiries coming but to no avail. I’m not sure if the conversation helped a lot or not. He spent much of the day Sunday with a notebook in hand writing down words he saw around the house and practicing words he already knows how to spell. After all “I have to be ready for Kindergarten.” The poor child is teaching himself everything he can so that he doesn’t go to Kindergarten knowing “nothing.”
It is my
goal job, as his mom, to help him relax this summer. To have fun. To not think about the abyss that is Kindergarten.
I am attempting to answer the first of his two unanswerable questions later this week. I am hoping to get him on a tour of the Kindergarten rooms at his new school. I know that they will be changed by fall, but at least he can have a visual to carry with him this summer. He understands the changes that construction brings so I think it will be ok.
I have a plan in place for the remainder of the summer. I am hoping that it will make a difference in his little life. I am hoping that it will make summer enjoyable for all of us. I hope that it will prepare him for Kindergarten in a way that only a true love of life can. And….
I will not share it with you until tomorrow;)
**I’m happy to report that the discussion we had does seem to be helping his behaviors (and by default Keegan’s behaviors). Nana survived today with no major meltdowns and only a little of the usual craziness:)**