It’s Official! Elastamom’s Here!

It’s Official!  I’m welcoming Tiffany from Elastamom’s Excerpts as my mommy blogger today.  I have known Tiffany since….  well, let’s just say we’ve been friends for ages!  She is a truly beautiful soul with 3 amazing children.

And, I’m happy to report that she has come up with a post that I know will not disappoint!  Be sure to head on over and check out her blog!
It’s Official…You MUST take time for yourself.
This is my mission. Seriously. Not just for Moms who have kids with special needs but for all people. This is important, so listen up.
I went through the first few years of motherhood thinking that if I didn’t give 100% of myself 100% of the time, I was a terrible mother, wife, sister, daughter, human being.
Guess what happened?
I was spent. I was depressed. I wasn’t enjoying my existence. Luckily I woke up and knocked it the hell off. And I’m hoping I can encourage you to do the same.
One of my favorite ways of taking time for myself is to cook. I love it when Matt walks in the door and he can watch over the kids and I can get lost in my kitchen for a while. I get my fancy knife my sister got me for Christmas, I put on my apron so I feel like a proper cook, I get my materials out, I grab my cookbook or computer opened up to TKW or FoodNetwork or Pioneer Woman and I get down to business. I chop, I saute, I mix and I make something healthy and delicious for my family. There’s nothing better than making PW’s delicious pot roast and having your family ooh and aah over it. It guarantees a few minutes of quiet anyway.
The best part? I get lost in my head and spend time alone for those precious 30-40 minutes. I love it. I may even go crazy and have a glass of wine while I’m cooking and then it’s a real party.
I also love to read and take time to do that at least for a few minutes each day. I don’t feel right if I’m not in the middle of a good book. I love to blog and read blogs. I love to exercise. I love spending time with my friends. So I make sure that I make time to do these things. It’s definitely not as often as I’d like and I think that’s why I like cooking so much…we gotta eat! So I’m guaranteed that little sliver of “me time” each and every day.

Lastly, I’d like to leave you with a favorite reading of mine. I share it with you not because I think I’m a saint or because I think I’m particularly special…but just to share with you that it’s ok and absolutely necessary to be a little selfish. It makes you a better momma. 😉

THE CHOSEN MOTHERS
by Erma Bombeck

Most women become a mother by accident, some by choice and a few by habit. Did you ever wonder how mothers of children with life threatening illnesses and disabilities are chosen? Somehow, I visualize God hovering over earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger…”Armstrong, Beth, son, patron Matthew.” Forrest, Margorie, daughter, patron saint Cecilia.” “Rutledge, Carrie, twins, patron saint Gerard.”

Finally he passes a name to an angel and says, “Give her a child with Down syndrome.” The angel is curious. “Why this one, God? She is so happy.” “Exactly,” smiles God. “Could I give a child with Down syndrome to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.” “But does she have patience?” Asks the angel. “I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she will handle it. I watched her today.” said God. ” She has that feeling of self independence that is so rare and necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has it’s own world. She has to make it live in her world and that is not going to be easy.”

“But Lord, I don’t think she believes in you.” said the angel. “No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.” The angel gasps, “Selfishness? Is that a virtue?”

God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes here is a woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take anything her child does for granted. She will never consider a single step ordinary. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see…ignorance, cruelty, prejudice…and allow her to rise above them.”

“And what about her patron saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air. God smiles and says…”A mirror will suffice.”

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About Brotherly Love

I am a mom, partner, teacher and a lover of life. I have two fabulous boys who define my life as I know it. One of my children has been diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder, Asperger's and anxiety disorder. I blog as much about him as I do about my life and the lives of my immediate family.
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8 Responses to It’s Official! Elastamom’s Here!

  1. ck says:

    TIFFANY! It's too early in the morning to make me cry. What a beautiful reading. And what a great reminder. We do need time for ourselves, it's how we recharge and breathe and remember why we wanted to do this in the first place.

  2. Tiffany says:

    Thanks for having me today Heather!! I hope you get lots of traffic. 🙂 What a great idea for this week as a gift to us for Mother's Day!!

  3. Tiffany says:

    Dang it…I wasn't going to read the poem…and then I did…and now I'm in a puddle!!!

  4. TKW says:

    Tiffany, I love it! Sniffle, sniffle. What a wonderful piece of writing.

  5. Gibby says:

    It's Official…you rock, Tiffany!

  6. The Henrys says:

    Beautiful pictures, beautiful poem. Thanks for sharing this with us. It was perfect timing for mother's day!!

  7. Heather B says:

    Tiffany I must admit that it was incredibly difficult to read what you wrote as I was posting it – you know, because of the tears! Thanks for your honesty and a fabulous reminder! And thanks for jumping over here today!

  8. This is the most touching thing I have read in the longest time.

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